Celebrating what we do HAVE is a luxury

All over the world, we all are celebrating the holidays, whether its Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Christmas, or whatever holiday that holds a special place in your heart.  It’s a time where we gather with our families and friends to eat, laugh, and love: creating lifelong memories.

This past Saturday on Christmas Eve, I attended church with my family which we participated in a candlelight ceremony and communion.  From there, the pastor gave an awesome message but what stood out to me was his statement how many of us get bent out of shape for what we don’t have, but instead we need to start celebrating what we do have. PAUSE.

*By the way, I am devouring my delicious Mac ‘n cheese which is why it is taking me forever to write this post…Lord*


Every Christmas, my little brother and I would wake up to a BA-GAZILLION presents orchestrated neatly under our Christmas tree, but this year was different: we didn’t have a BA-GAZILLION presents.  At first, I thought it wasn’t going to be a good Christmas, but then as the day went on, through visiting my cousin’s house on my mother’s side and my grandma’s house on my dad’s side, I realized Christmas wasn’t about the gifts.  Christmas can’t be “bad” because I didn’t get a BA-GAZILLION presents; it’s only “bad” if I let it to be “bad.”  And Christmas can’t be “bad” because of things I don’t have.

Christmas was AMAZING, not because of what I didn’t have, but because of what I DID have.  I have plenty of food; I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back, friends and sisters to act completely insane with.  And I have an amazing family who are full of smiles, laughs, and joy.  Yes, we don’t always get along, but I am apart of something that can never change: a bloodline.

Well, darlings, let us not go into the new year moping about what we do not have, for there is always someone who has it worse than us.  Think about what you DO have and let that bring you joy.  You may not have the money, clothes, or house that you want, but don’t lose your mind over that.  You know better; you are much stronger than you think.

So today, I encourage you to start celebrating what you do have 🙂



The Luxurious Recipe for Life

Life is full of ups and downs, good times and bad times, and the like.  Therefore, we often wonder how in the world are we going to get through life and what are the keys to living an amazing life!! How’s my life??? Well, currently, I am in the midst of a storm, but somehow I have peace in my life (from the help of my Lord, Jesus Christ).  Honestly, the mess that I’m in, I really should be going crazy.  But, NOPE, I’m not.  I’ve just matured as a young woman.  Think about it.  You know you have matured, when you’ve learned how to stay CALM and not stress/freak out about alllllllllllllll that’s going on around you.  I’m just saying.


As I walked past my mother’s kitchen (I was blessed to come home for Christmas!! HALLELUJAH!!!!!), my eyes caught a recipe on the garage door.  It’s a yummy recipe, so darlings start cooking it TODAY!  And don’t forget to share this as well 🙂

Recipe for Life

4 cups of Love

2 cups of Loyalty

3 cups of Forgiveness

1 cup of Friendship

5 spoons of Hope

2 spoons of Tenderness

4 quarts of Faith

1 barrel of Laughter,

Take Love and Loyalty, mix it thoroughly with Faith.  Blend it with Tenderness, Kindness, and understanding.  Sprinkle abundantly with Laughter.  Bake it with Sunshine.  Serve daily with generous helpings.

The Luxury: Love=Pain

Two days ago, as I was leaving church, waiting for the dawdling C train in Brooklyn to swoop me up, one of my church members asked me if I was doing ok.  Of course, I told her I was doing fine (which is my normal stance for when people ask, I am not one to complain or showcase my problems).  But, apparently, my face failed me once again and gave clue that I was burdened.  Respectfully, she didn’t inquire any further information but she said one thing to me which I want to share: “It’s always the things that we love so much that bring us so much pain, but that’s what benefits us.” Let it marinate. Hmmmm. Somehow it didn’t make sense, but a CLICK came on in my head as I stood there, holding back tears (I hate crying by the way; I will suck it up until my face breaks!).

So tell me, what do you love?

Well, I love pizza, shopping (it’s therapy, by the way), dancing and singing LOUDLY to any Whitney Houston song, and more.


Well, things that I love of substance?

I love my family, friends, my alma mater (Hampton University), my church (Love Fellowship Tabernacle in Brooklyn), and more.

I’m not sure if you understood it, but I what I’ve come to realize is that the things that are closest to our hearts is what hurts us the most.  And I believe they hurt the most because we pour so much of our love, hearts, souls, and energy into them.  We can’t help it when things are meaningful to us.  For example, if my brother insults me for whatever reason, that’s going to hurt more than if a stranger off the dear streets of New York insults me.  Now, I’m not saying to stop pouring your heart out to anything or anyone because it could bring upon pain at some point, but simply stating that you can’t avoid the pain because that pain will benefit us later on in life.  In essence, the pain is going to make you stronger and wiser.  There’s no pain without love and no love without pain.  Think about it. Whatever you love that’s bringing you pain, it’s going to be okay.  It will teach you, trust me.  My pain is teaching me now.  Therefore, I am writing this to bring an awareness, not to discourage you.


“It’s always the things that we love so much that bring us so much pain, but that’s what benefits us.”