One could say that prior to this year, I lived under constraints, meaning I lived with limitations. Up until this point in my life, I could never say I was a free person. I bore the weight of society’s standards on my shoulders. I didn’t jump when society said jump though I always did what I’ve always wanted to do, but in the back of my mind, there was always society’s opinion frolicking. Freedom is a luxury, when you understand the power of its magnitude. Nonetheless, an abundance of joy and happiness can emanate from freedom. I believe this “limitation living” derived from failing to truly embrace who I was: my uniqueness, my abnormality, and everything else that made up me! To some, this may be a shocking revelation, but I’m only human and it’s the truth. But, as I began to embrace who I truly am and made no apologies for it, I experienced a phenomenon like none before: living. I freed myself. Therefore, I no longer care about what people may think or say about how I dress, how I speak, how I carry myself, and how I do any and everything else in life! This newfound “revelation” doesn’t stem from vanity or cockiness, it’s just that people and society do not validate me. More importantly, I know who I belong to: God. And only He can validate me. There’s freedom in deliverance from other people’s opinion. So today, I bask in freedom and thank God everyday for this new found freedom.
Let’s never forget that some of God’s greatest mercies are His refusals. He says no in order that He may, in some way we cannot imagine, say yes. All His ways with us are merciful. His meaning is always love.
– Elisabeth Elliot
I don’t even know where I’m going with this post; I’m just writing whatever comes to my mind about love.
Love is a beautiful thing.
My church says all the time, “Love is what love does.”
But, why when we glance around the world, there seems to be lack of it? But, to take it a step further, why do we sometimes have a lack of love for ourselves? We seek love in a man, in a woman, a pet, or in whatever we believe that can provide some sort of validation for us, but ourselves.
At what point do see our own value? At WHAT POINT do we stop looking for someone (man/woman) or something to complete us?
I believe we come to that point when we find love within ourselves. We can’t truly love someone if we don’t love ourselves. We can’t give what we don’t have.
Why can’t we see that we’re fully capable of being loved and fully capable TO love?
See, we were made out of love. Every little organ and every little cell combined that makes up our entire body was handcrafted in love.
When love is shown properly, it can heal, encourage, inspire, protect, and so much more, including planting a smile on our faces 😉
I just wish that we all can see the love within ourselves and allow that inner love to emanate to the world. Love is really beautiful; we need more of it.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV)
Do everything in love (1 Corinthians 16:14 NIV)
Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.
– Oscar Wilde
Stay in your lane.
A reminder for myself.
It’s always so tempting to begin glancing at other people’s lanes. Competition. Curiosity. Comparison. And so forth. And it always seems that the world is moving right along and you’re standing far behind.
Enumerating all that’s taking place (or at least I think is taking place) in other people’s lives can be draining, but what good is that? All it does is forestall my own potential in obtaining success in my life. Therefore, I found that it’s more productive when I take my eyes off someone’s else lane and keep my eyes focused on the prize in MY lane. At the end of the day, what God has for me is for me. I will get to my destination in due time.
Distractions and temptations will come, but if we discipline ourselves to fix our eyes on the prize/goal, nothing can stop us. Lately, I’ve been doing a heck of a job staying focused on my goals – both long-term and short-term and have reached success in many areas of my life. It’s the beginning of October – 3 more months in the year to go. Yes, I’m not where I want to be in life, but I’m much closer than I was yesterday. Lessons have been learned. My patience has increased. And my character is being developed.
In essence, I’m not going to worry about what the next person is doing or saying. I’m focusing on becoming a better me and getting to where I want and need to be. And I encourage you to do the same.
My motto for October: Stay in your lane, J. 🙂