The Luxury of Taking Over This Male-Dominated World

Morning darlings!

Though the road you’re treading may seem a bit a slow and everyone is passing you by, keep moving and don’t give up. For every detour you’ve made, there’s another door ready for you to walk through. How ever bumps and turns you’ve encountered on your journey, you’re still on the path to success. Success is not just about having money or cars and expensive clothing, it’s about accomplishing what you set out to do! So leave that materialistic mindset at the door and reach for something greater than you. Keep your eyes ahead on the prize with your vision a keen and move forward to success!

As I become more conscious of my true self, my style continues to evolve. Unfortunately, this world is still male-dominated when it comes to power holders. But, I believe that we, women, can quickly reverse that and are currently on the path to! Inspired by male-dominated power holders, I desired to conquer the essence of menswear with my attire and attitude. Even as I graced the streets of the concrete jungle in NYC, I felt as if I could literally take over the world with this attire. And that’s the attitude you should carry EVERYDAY! So darlings, let’s keep moving, take over this male-dominated world, and look better in menswear than they do, while doing so. Be inspired 😉

Attire: Blazer – H&M 

           Plaid shirt – Hollister

           Black Jeans – Ann Taylor

          Buckled Loafers – Asos


Happy New Year! 2015!

Happy New Year darlings! I pray that the first day of the year started off great for you as it did for me! I believe this is going to be the BEST year of our lives and I’m SUPER excited about it! Let’s get to planning and executing our plans so our dreams can turn into reality! Be blessed 😉

The Luxury of A Stepping Stone!

Recently, a friend of mine started an accountability/accomplishment goal line between a group of us women where we outline our monthly accomplishments and goals.  When she initially sent the email requesting our accomplishments and goals thus far, I thought to myself, “What HAVE I accomplished?” not from an eager mind but from a defeated mindset.  Lo and behold, I began typing my accomplishments and KEPT typing as they began rolling off my mind when I discovered the MANY things I had done for January and February.  It was a challenge at first because my mind was clouded by my current situations (all that hasn’t happened yet, the negatives) to even see all that I’ve accomplished thus far for 2014.  Oddly enough, even though I experienced a great deal of opposition and adversity for the month of February, I accomplished the MOST during that month.  I don’t know how. It has to be the strength of the Lord because February was filled with so many tears and sorrow.  In retrospect, the more opposition I faced, the stronger I became.


Something to ponder.

Little did I know, that every little step I took (with much opposition) was another step towards my breakthrough, reaching my vision for 2014.  In hindsight, you don’t move the mountain by pushing it all at once, but by moving each individual stones.  Even though it may LOOK like it’s not moving, it really is moving.  Essentially, looks can be deceiving. Ha! (That saying is actually on my vision board, GLORY!)

So today, I encourage you to write down the things you’ve accomplished, whether grand or minor.  And definitely, do not compare your accomplishment to what you THINK someone else is doing.  YOUR path is yours and theirs is THEIRS. When you visually see what you are doing, it will help you keep things in perspective.

It did for me.

Stepping stones move mountains.

Struggling with Your Careers?

Okay, so darlings, I am truly a student of knowledge; I’m constantly searching for ways to gain more knowledge in life! I believe reading and learning is so fundamental to being successful in life and especially necessary to acquire wealth!

Plus, I am addicted to WISDOM! What good is knowledge if you don’t have the wisdom to know what to do and how to use the knowledge you’ve gained?

Anyways,  I received an email this morning from Coaching Compass (under the Coaching Training Alliance) which prompted me to ponder about some of the choices that I’ve made (or attempting to make) in reaching my goals.  I am a big proponent for self-evaluation which I do daily before bed.  Therefore, I want to share with you five steps that the author Deborah Brown-Volkman lists that she believes can assist creating progression in your career.  Check out the five steps below!

Coaching A Winning Career

Walk your clients through these five simple steps:

1. Describe What You Want
You cannot get what you want until you can describe what it is. What do you see yourself doing if there were no perceived obstacles in your way? Give yourself the freedom to brainstorm and the answers you are seeking will come.

2. Explore Your Options
What did you learn from Step 1? Take your realizations and turn them into real career choices. Begin researching and using contacts you know today, or people you haven’t met yet, to help you.

3. Create Your Game Plan
Take what you gathered from the exploratory process and put these steps into your calendar.
a) What I want.
b) When I will get what I want.
c) The actions I will take to get there.

4. Implement Your Plan
Keep the momentum going. Set daily, weekly, and monthly goals. Persistence and forward movement is what will help you reach your goal.

5. Reach Your Goal
You made it! Applaud yourself for your hard work and effort. Congratulations on discovering you can handle anything that comes your way.

Deborah Brown-Volkman is is the creator of the Career Escape Program™ and author of The Sage and Scholar’s Guide to Coaching Career Transitions.